I received this question of a reader(Y)../
Winy, I’m a nice guy, good with life and shovel, I’m not all so beautiful, but give pro spent. At a party, ballad, dance or anything like that, I know the girl look, I know this part until after that, do not know how proceed.
I do not know how to get to her and say “I’m in order to you” – I think it’s very impersonal say anything – I do not know what to say, I do not know what to say to girl. If I say “you’re beautiful”, “You dance very well,” I have no idea what to say and what to do next.
Help me, please, because the situation’re complicated to me.
So I reply:
Welcome to the wonderful world of dog, my friend.
The myth that only women undergo the ritual of flirtation falls to the ground at all times I’m in a club, I see a lot of guys rolled through with what to do – guys who do not follow that pattern godzilla muscle with a glass of vodka and energetic hands. For starters, believe me: you’re not alone in this. I know at least one guy who trembled at some unknown chick in ballads and nights of life.
The problem here is that strangeness typical of how to start a conversation with a stranger. Imagine the scene takes place on a bus and someone sits next to you. start affair with another person is one of the strangest and most embarrassing situations that I imagine anyone living. In our case, everyone already has standardized the rule that man is responsible for the initiative in case of interest. Thus, our environment’re set: women dancing and having fun with her girlfriends, ready for the stumps and desenrolos night, men and anxious and nervous thinking about the war strategy adequate to get there.
But let’s get right to the problem: the case may be insecurity or awkwardness. Many men feel they have become matted all in an attempt to start a subject with a girl with whom they want to be just a bit and get outside. That thing to come by, ask if it’s okay, ask the name for purposes seems too much difficult and intransigent to the noble beaus. But it’s worth remembering:
1) Drink something, take a deep breath and have insecurity at shit. Friend, that old story of the “not you already have” is the greatest truth of life. What can you do to feel if she is in order or if it gives you the opening to unwind is maintaining eye contact and a few smiles as they dance alone. You can realize when a woman creates a connection with you, or when she says something to friend, or when she avoids you – you do not serve to waste time or do not dare to take one out guaranteed.