[You can read this to the tune of The Lightning Strike]
-Finished, sorry, it was not you.
Of all the words you heard, I think “over” was the strongest. It’s one of those final decisions do not depend on us and that, in most cases, we even anticipated. Comes like a tsunami while you was taking a picture of the back showing the sea and to arrange for pros whatsapp friends like any other day. I think the point is just this: so far, all these seemed any one day until you hear it over. And now, what will be tomorrow without he (s)?
The first reaction is shock. While forcibly submerged in the stream, your brain tries to come up with a practical and easy way to save your life while your body feels the pain of the beating, the shock of the cold and you start to drown accidentally. Most people end up drowning in that moment and Jack has to give way to the floating furniture in the high seas. On the contrary: he was the one who took all the furniture up close and you threw the ship. And you’re still choking a little and struggle to understand that, despite having a more or less formed in your head of things to come concept.
When we hear a “finished”, the social roles of the relationship change. Who do you love becomes his executioner and you shall be a desolate martyr. In the background, well actually, you do not want things to be so. Wanted to continue living their enchanted world where happiness resided at an address with building and apartment already stored in memory. Wanted to proceed with those plans and always walks in the park on Sundays. Wanted to continue visiting his family and, my God, how will it be now? I think the biggest problem being unwillingly sent away is having to understand the parts of all the other leading to this decision. After that, the hardest part is to repair life.
How do you explain to everyone that the world crumbles when you do not know the reason? You try to be all right, pretend that every day still the same, but we know that everything has changed. Even if the way to work or home is the same yesterday and today are days belonging to completely different epochs. And as you do not want, you discover that the other is an unknown, or asshole, or someone that you will learn to hate to have you evicted.
But focusing on this point , let’s do a brief comment on the nature of people : we will always try to find reason or logical reasoning to explain why this is when we thought everything was fine. Most often , the other tava waging such a big internal battle that we never saw . It was never about us , know ? he(S)might have come to the conclusion that it was not meant to be and there was nothing we did to change that. It was with us , was the way in the other pathway. The way he (s) felt on our side , things passing through the head and the heart. Therefore , he(s) may even have made us happy , no doubt , but does he (s) tava happy? Love was not meant to be prison and looks the world is huge . It’s a bit selfish to arrest someone to be the person of our life if the converse is not true . On a cold and comprehensive analysis to other , perhaps he (s) was just for seeking an opportunity to be happier with someone who was not you.
You, well, you should not be wanting to think about it now. Fuck the other, after all it is now his tormentor. But the question here, you can make all the difference is how we choose to deal with the fact of being kicked out of someone’s life. We can carry this as hurt and drive a greater personal war yet or we can try to understand that the world is huge and that love is not even a prison, or for those who decide to go, or for those who end up getting. Things happen, people leave, people get screwed, is the life cycle of many relationships. In between, we can find a happy ending or a happy time, regardless of what happens after it.
But, if I leave a tip, I would say the best way to overcome this is to let a little aside this need we have to understand all the reasons that led to the “over” painful. Believe me, you will already have too much work packing up your life going forward, then the less drama, the better for you. Put everything in clean dishes and think that you were not the person of his life (a). Maybe (s) he was not even in yours too. Looks more pro that will come ahead because all resume brings a new world of people and expectations for our lives. Good luck with that.